Self esteem along with what I call the other 4 key internal factors namely self belief, confidence, worth, and image play a big part in getting you your ideal life so it's important to keep them in check. Even some of the most successful people you know may be grappling with one of these internal factors. It might be that your self esteem has always been high but over the last couple of months or years you've started noticing a difference in yourself. For example, you may be finding that tasks you have done in the past at work or the way you handle social situations have become increasing difficult to handle.
It can be a lot of hard work to get your self esteem back up to the top levels it should be at. The first thing is that you have to believe that it's possible to increase your self esteem and recognise that you wont allow it to hold you back any longer. Here are a few of my top tips to getting you started on increasing your self esteem:-
1. Give Yourself A Daily Pat On The Back
Become aware of how you speak about yourself and react to people. Note down if you put yourself down and make a list of these comments about yourself. Remember people's perceptions of you will be based on what you think about yourself and how you talk about yourself.
Start boosting your self-appreciation by writing a list of all your best qualities and carry this list everywhere and read it on a daily basis. Also keep a tally of how many times you apologise and put yourself down and aim to decrease this each week.
2. You're The Woman!
If you find yourself thinking negative thoughts about yourself – STOP! Replace these thoughts with positive affirmations like "I'm a confident person", "I'm capable of achieving anything I set my mind to", etc.
This is a powerful technique as it means you're literally talking to your subconscious where ingrained perceptions of yourself are stored.
3. Be Who You Want To Be Like
Don't surround yourself with people that make you feel negative about yourself and don't compare yourself to others. Instead focus on confident people who inspire you. Study their words and body language and adapt these characteristics to use for yourself.
4. Image Is Imagination
Imagine yourself as confident. See yourself moving around in situations as this confident person. Do this on a daily basis and before you are about to embark on big tasks, as this will prepare you and help you to start seeing yourself as the person you really want to be.
This is a great start to improving your self esteem and a powerful one.